Social Media outlets such as Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram exert a significant impact on the mental and emotional wellbeing of Teens, Tweens and many Young Adults. In some cases this impact is positive, giving them an outlet for positive experiences and growth. Unfortunately this is not the most common effect seen, however. We need a way to reverse the mental and emotional damage being done through social media.
"Recent research has shown that using social networking sites, namely Facebook, can increase people’s stress levels, produce and negatively affect a person’s sense of self." - PsychCentral
Want Self-Esteem? Practice Accountability!
Posted: February 07, 2018
An important ingredient missing in many of today's kids and young adults is accountability. Everyone is worried that these age groups are exhibiting low self-esteem and an inability to handle the challenges life send their way. The issues these young folks are facing likely came from a shortfall in the lessons of accountability they learned earlier in life. Learning to behave with complete accountability is a necessary part of a healthy growth and maturity process.
Accountability, the act of following through on one's promises and the open acceptance of the consequences of our choices and actions, is often a concept that parents find difficult to teach their children. While they understand the concept, model the concept and attempt to help their kids learn the idea, it often seems too painful to hold a child to the core of the concept. This reluctance to fully teach the meaning of accountability can have a large and lasting impact on a child's self-esteem.
First, let's look at promises. When a potential student comes into our school for a Student Assessment and Family Meeting one of the processes I go through with all children, ages 3-16, is the concept of "Answering Up". In our school we use the "Answer Up", saying "Yes, Sir/Ma'am!", as a way of showing respect as well as a way of maintaining safety in a very dynamic environment. During the potential student's initial visit I challenge them to "Answer Up" every time I ask them to do something as part of one our Student Assessment Challenges. I also remind them that when they "Answer Up" at home and school, as they should, they are making a promise to whomever they are answering. They are saying, "Yes Ma'am/Sir, I will get that done right away!" I turn this into a powerful tool that parents and teachers can use to help keep the child on track and focused by linking it to idea that, "A good Black Belt Leader ALWAYS keeps their promises." The most interesting thing about this very short process is the immediate effect it has on every child that comes through my office. Every one of them responds more quickly with the "Answer Up" after I explain the reason behind it and it's real power. Their Self-Esteem jumps and they become more inquisitive, willing to try new challenges and more respectful towards their parents. As they begin to "Answer Up" and then execute the simple instructions I am giving them you can almost see their self-worth and belief intheir ability to accomplish anything grow! Promises do not need to be complex to be powerful, encourage accountability through the use of simple promise-making and promise-keeping cycles.